Yesterday I was the speaker at a Probus Club meeting. Due to Covid rules the venue was changed from their usual hall to a Salvation Army meeting hall or church and my beautiful PowerPoint Presentation couldn’t be used.
OK I had to adlib which worked fine… thankfully and the talk went well, the group was lovely to talk to.
The theme was “What are we doing in this crazy world? Finding our purpose” and because I gave some carefully anonymous client stories about how people can recover from trauma and abuse; the discussion included the Women’s Summit in Canberra this week and the anger turned on our Prime Minister by Grace Tame and Brittany Higgins.
These two girls have every right to be angry. Anger is a natural protective emotion to protect their vulnerable and hurt selves but…
…Without being in anyway political, that anger should have been directed at their abusers, NOT the Prime Minister. For goodness’ sake, he did not rape them! He is in fact, trying to help.
I told a story about a woman who came to me very overweight, diabetic and massively anxious. Under hypnosis she decided to put all of them in a box, then in her words she “kicked and punched the hell out of them” then blew the bits away. She certainly did! She was in my big chair with her feet up and she kicked punched and swore loudly. The opened her eyes to tell me she felt really good.
Long term it made a huge difference to her, she lost weight, was no longer diabetic and totally changed her life.
The thing is that our brain cannot tell the difference between reality and what you strongly imaging with emotion. Just think about how athlete does this before big events. A classic is a rugby player visualising the kick to convert a try. That ball went through the posts in his mind long before his foot even moved.
Anger is a natural protective emotion but if it is too frequent and/or wrongly directed please come and get help.
Also If you know people who are looking for an interesting speaker I’d appreciate a recommendation.