I was looking at my scales this morning and wondering about the impact of all that Christmas and ongoing holiday eating and drinking? If you have found that an extra kilo or two crept on, ask yourself how much of your weight is caused by that self-abusive bully that lurks within your mind? Your stories are what weigh the most… more than party goodies or the extra drink.
Some of us do bring out the abusive bully that lurks in our minds. “OMG… you look so fat!” etc. etc. If that is you STOP NOW!
What you consciously think about is what your unconscious mind believes so if you are wanting weight loss you want to think thin instead. And that applies to much more than just weight loss! Catch that bully and change the story. Remember your stories are what weigh the most
Tell yourself the holidays are over, it’s still lovely warm weather and I can manage what I eat and drink more easily. I will lose that little bit of extra fat. It will be easy and natural. Your body automatically changes your “quilt” thickness as the weather changes… if you let it and you avoid that self-abuse.
The stories you tell yourself matter because it is about the belief or fantasy behind those stories.
I heard a wonderful example of this recently. A woman was hiking with a friend. They encountered a fence and the friend started to climb through it. The first woman panicked and stopped her.
When they sorted things out it turned out that her friend had grown up on a farm. Her belief was “fences are to keep animals in.” As a city bred girl, the first woman’s belief was “fences are to keep people out.”
The story could have been about how angry she was that she couldn’t get close to the pretty pond because it was fenced in. The friend’s story would have been about her pleasant visit to that lovely little pond.
The difference was just a story. Only the fence was real.
Always keep your ear open for that self-abusive bully that lurks within. And question those beliefs behind the distressing stories you tell yourself.
It may be hard to give them up even if they no longer fit the circumstances of your life.
It is harder to give up the beliefs than the extra party goodies