Fred owns a busy accountancy practice with very efficient staff and a well run office.
He however he was overwhelmed. He had was taking home his client’s problems leaving him feeling as though he was in a “vortex” or whiriling thoughts and worries. This is classic trauma.
The only way he thought he could cope with this was to drink, which he did at lunchtime, after work and at weekends – in ever increasing amounts.
I used a combination of business coaching around the rule that you “don’t take on the problem if the problem isn’t yours" and added hypnotherapy to break the alcohol habit – job done! Fred is now coping well in his business, has lost weight and no longer drinks. That also saved his marriage which has been on the rocks due to the drinking and general stress overload.
Managers and professionals like accountants, lawyers, doctors and many others are trained in their professions, but the commonsense business management training is often missing. I know because I had to learn this the hard way 20 years ago so I got help from business coaches and consultants that was worth every cent that I spent. and I spent 10 years as a business management consultant before I returned to my true love of getting our minds and bodies to work together.
The answer is a very clear yes. Anytime you have real trouble making the changes in habits that that you want to make, you have an argument going on inside. And your conscious mind often wants something quite different to what your unconscious mind has decided is right.
Sometimes even your unconscious mind has can’t agree with two parts disagreeing. No wonder that habit change is hard. We all have a ‘naughty” part of our unconscious mind who brings us unhelpful thoughts – I certainly do.
Our unconscious minds are like 3-5 year old children, very determined and single minded (each part is single minded). For some reason when you set up the habit, you convinced your unconscious mind that the habit was the best thing to keep you safe.
The “safety” at the time may have simply been belonging to a peer group and some years later that is no longer relevant so you need to have that discussion with your mind. Talking to yourself is very good!
The trick to changing a habit is to observe your thoughts and reject those that are not helpful and I can help with this. I can also help you to discover whether part of your mind is digging in and rejecting the change so that you can change this.
I’d love to hear back from you and give you more help if you want it.