You’ve gone to bed, you are tired then when your head hits the pillow and the light goes out, your unconscious mind gets busy.
“I can see you are going to sleep now but before you do, here’s a few extra things you may like to consider.”
In the past, before I healed my PTSD this was horrendous, those things sometimes terrorised me all night and I would wake up dreaming of more traumatic things.
Now, oh yes, I still sometimes get reminders from my unconscious mind, so I grab a piece of paper I keep beside the bed and jot them down.
Sometimes they are useful reminders, they don’t worry me anymore. If I wake dreaming and I don’t like the context or ending, I just say, that’s not right, this is what happens, then roll over and go back to sleep.
The horrors are no longer horrors.
Traumatic memories don’t just disappear, but they no longer have the pain and you can easily reframe them and send them away.
This is what I help people to learn with both Face-to-Face hypnotherapy and in the “Escape from Anxiety” program. And the VIP “Escape from Anxiety” also includes up to 2 one-on-one hypnotherapy sessions with me either face-to-face or on zoom
Here is the link to learn more. It only costs a small monthly fee. No more than a weekly coffee and bun.
If you’ve had trauma in your life, it may be time to stop and think, what really matters in your life? The freedom that you find when you defuse those memories is so good.
Margie is a professional woman in her 60s suffering from loneliness, dreadful panic attacks and was becoming agoraphobic. She grew up on a British army Base where her father was a non-commissioned officer.
She was raped at aged 8 by 2 teenage boys, the sons of Officers and when she reported this to her parents, little was done about it other than her father being very angry and unable to resolve it.
When the family returned to the UK those older boys had graduated as officers and her father was stationed under their command. An older brother also raped her, which continued for many years. She was frightened to tell her parents saying she was afraid her father would kill her brother.
She divorced in her 40s after finding her husband was bringing other women into her house while she was at work.
Recently she was also having ongoing and increasing bullying by a manager at work. Her family migrated to Australia and her father joined the Australian Army when Margie was a teenager.
I helped her work with her unconscious mind to deal with all the abuse.
When she came back told me that she had written to her brother and had told her mother. She enjoyed planning a confident future.
Stuff no longer rolls through her mind and her anxiety has gone. She has told her mother about the rapes and confronted her brother so that she feels comfortable meeting him now. She is no longer being bullied. She now has 5 boxes in her mind, 1 is very pretty and on a pedestal to put good thoughts in and the other 4 are there so she can put all bad thoughts in them.
When trauma happens the memory and the pain is held in all the cells of your body and until it is released that memory is never resolved. The stress and trauma is never over.
Using hypnosis and a special step by step process I help clients to overcome those memories and let the pain and stress go. The change is dramatic.
I truly ‘get” this because this is the process that I used to heal my own PTSD which built up over many years from my earliest childhood, through being bullied as a disabled child and having 3 abusive marriages.
I'll let Sue (not her real name) tell her story
Anxiety is not an attitude. If you, or any one you know is experiencing anxiety, stress, depression or trauma, it is absolutely not an attitude. You can’t just “snap out of it”. It is NOT conscious and may not even be verbalised. Anxiety is held in your body as feelings.
It is a response by your sympathetic nervous system to being overwhelmed and triggering the fight, flight, freeze response.
The cause may be a single event or a trauma, it may be years of overwork, perhaps it was a childhood or a relationship that was full of abuse or perhaps feelings of abandonment.
Whatever the cause and often it is an accumulation of many, it is something that can and should be helped. You do not need to constantly be on alert, on edge, mind racing, wondering what is happening next…
I safely and gently use hypnosis to help you to deal with the problem at a deep level where you access your unconscious mind so that you are able to shut down that “Fight, Flight, Freeze” state,.
Unlike the more common Cognitive Therapy, you are not revisiting your problems consciously nor re-traumatising. You let your busy logical mind drift and work on your two major needs:
• It is over – that was in the past and I can let it go now
• You are safe, you can return to calm.
Hypnosis allows you to do this simply, safely and fast – it generally takes around 3-4 weeks and I follow clients up after 3 months to check how they are going.
I see clients become years younger while they sit in the chair beside me, I see the sigh of relief, and the huge smile when they know it is over. It is in the past. There is no more need to be anxious.
Anxiety is definitely not an attitude and the treatment is completely liberating.
Even people with full-blown PTSD can return to calm in only 3-4 weeks using hypnosis.
If you or people you know or love exist with anxiety, depression or PTSD get them to come and see me. And I said exist because PTSD, anxiety and depression is just existing not living. It needs to be fixed and I can help.
People come to see me with all manner of problems and of course quitting smoking is one of the most common. Even though the particular habit or behaviour started years earlier, sometimes there is an underlying reason why they have not been able to change it.
The failure to change is often about something completely different and changing the habit can be one stress too many for some.
It makes sense to look at this because on many occasions removing the underlying cause first, makes changing the habit easier and more permanent.
We all have stuff happening in our lives… some people have a lot more than others; some have stuff that is simply horrendous and in both these cases they remain in a highly stressed fight, flight or freeze state for years which affects their ongoing relationships, their work and their health and this excessive stress needs to be removed so that the person feels in control again.
The problem is that when the part of the brain that organises your memories ready for storage becomes overwhelmed, some of those memories do not get stored, instead, they remain current.
Friends and family typically find this difficult because they are unable to understand why you can’t let the thing go. They don’t understand the threat, fear or guilt is held in your body, not stored and often not even verbalised. You can’t ‘just let it go’.
Then unexpected little things can trigger full blown stress and anxiety again.
Have you ever been to the rain forest in Queensland and seen a strangler fig?
A bird drops a fig seed into the top of a tree and the fig starts to grow… with its roots gradually enveloping the living tree and living off it as a parasite. Eventually the fig roots reach the ground and the original tree is fully surrounded and gradually dies.
Sometimes our thoughts, and emotions are like this strangler fig.
The problems start with something that may be quite small and end up totally enveloping you. Things like anger, depression, anxiety, pain can envelop and overwhelm you until your real self is almost dead inside.
The thing is to step away from this… start to observe your thoughts and feelings and see them as just thoughts that are enveloping you. These are not anything real and substantial – only thoughts!
Avoid getting caught up in dramas – again they can be stepped away from.
You can start to become aware of these thoughts and dramas yourself and step away, but if they are too overwhelming give me a call on 1300 88 3646 because I can help you.
If you can’t change your past or things that happened or were said, why waste any more time and energy thinking about it?
Accept it happened and treat it as a bad thought and let it go.
If it was something really bad you suffered enough at the time. Why would you choose to keep reliving it?
This is seriously life changing, so just practice for a few minutes every day.
You will get more control of your mind the more that you practice.
Think about accepting what is and let thoughts like worries, anxieties, bad memories just drift away
Don’t waste your precious time and energy on things from the past or future things that have not even happened.
A useful story
In a far off land, two monks left their monastery to go for a walk. There were some rules… they never spoke outside the monastery and they must never touch a woman.
After some time, they heard cries for help and saw a woman and small child stranded on rocks in the middle of a fast-rising river.
The older monk hitched up his robes and carried the child to safety and then carried the woman to the bank also.
When they got back to the monastery the young monk said “Master, what have you done? You carried the woman.” “Yes my son” said the Master “and I put her down a long time ago. You are still carrying her”
What are you still carrying?
Become aware of what you are carrying. It may be the past, it may be someone else’s problems, it may be something that hasn’t even happened and might never happen,
Nothing stands still – it either helps you or it hurts you and it is helpful to become aware of this.
Observe your thoughts and ask if each one is helping you or hurting you
Stress happens when we try to control things that we can’t
This may be the daily overload like the noise the kids make when they are having fun, or your partner having a habit you find offensive and he/she thinks is normal or a combination of many things, building up and becoming overwhelming.
It might be your work situation or people you work with. or simply the lack of time and delays in the traffic.
In all cases the effects of stress can be very real and debilitating and especially when it leads to anxiety and depression and perhaps excessive alcohol consumption as people try to self medicate.
When stress gets out of control, one of the the first things to be affected is how you sleep. And stress also affects your biochemistry, releasing cortisol and adrenalin and suppressing serotonin.
These biochemical changes block absorption of nutrients and also of any medications that have been prescribed so the first thing is to break the stress cycle which is where we start using hypnosis. Hypnosis is a very powerful tool to help you emerge from anxiety and depression and to change habits, control your mind and learn to be relaxed. Learn to choose a calm response.
Allowing yourself to feel stressed and to think of consequences that often never happen is a HABIT and habits can be changed
NOTE: Severe or prolonged stress and trauma coming from past events must be treated differently
Stress, anxiety and trauma are not your fault but it is your responsibility to heal.
Healing does not return us to who and how we used to be before the trauma. No- we become someone stronger, wiser, kinder.
And in changing our lives we are able to affect our families and communities in a good way.
Escape from Anxiety is a guided 6-week program and priced to make it accessible. It costs less than a coffee and a bun each week.
The program helps you to understand and manage those unconscious beliefs that control your life. You will learn how to change them so that YOU can heal and become that person you are meant to be, a much stronger, wiser and kinder. And I will be with you all the way, to make sure you reach a place where you are able to heal.
I am passionate about helping people to use their minds to heal themselves though hypnotherapy. This course teaches you to understand the origins of your anxiety and how to change this so that you CAN Escape from the stress, anxiety and depression stress that happens in all our lives.
And we do this without going over and over issues because this just increases your pain.
I am with you all the way to answer questions and hold out my hand to help you across difficult areas.
Anxiety, stress and anger are like poison for your body. When you are stressed every cell in your body is stressed and your cells do not thrive and stay healthy under those conditions.
When your body is stressed it wants to turn on whatever has upset it and if this is not possible your body turns on itself, causing illnesses like autoimmune disease and cancer.
Some things that happen to people either as children or as adults result in them always being more stressed than others and more reactive to situations so that they cling to their comfort which may be smoking, alcohol becoming unable to go out easily or some other response to relieve their stress.
The important thing is to get rid of that stress by “defusing” the situation/s that caused it and this can be done very safely and easily with hypnosis. The process is life changing. The way people transform is wonderful.
There are things that block smokers from quitting and while some can quit cold turkey relatively easily, others find it extremely difficult.
The trick is to sort out why. What part of your mind needs to cling to smoking? Often it is about coping with stress so we need to sort out how to reduce that and get you back to calm.