Julie's Story

I helped a lovely woman I will call Julie who came for help feeing lonely and isolated with panic attacks that come with no warning. She woke dreading each day and was becoming agoraphobic.
Julie grew up on an army base in Cyprus where her father was a non-commissioned officer. She had been raped at aged 8 by 2 teenage boys, the sons of Officers and when she reported this to her parents, little was done about it other than her father being very angry and unable to resolve it. 

When the family returned to the UK those older boys had graduated as officers and her father was stationed under their command. This is when the family migrated to Australia. An older brother also raped her, which continued this for many years.  She was frightened to tell her parents because saying she was afraid her father would kill her brother. 

She divorced age 44 after finding her husband was bringing other women into her house while she was at work. 

Recently she was also having ongoing and increasing bullying by a manager at work. 

She was carrying a lot of guilt guilty about causing problems for her father and had ongoing problems about her brother. 

She told him in her imagination that she had actually saved his life by not telling her father what he did.  

When she came again she told me that she had written to her brother and had told her mother.  She enjoyed planning a confident future. We used the pond again to was away any remaining guilt.

Stuff is no longer rolling through her mind, and she is no longer anxious. She has told her mother about the rapes and confronted her brother so that she feels comfortable meeting him now.   

She is no longer being bullied. She now has 5 boxes in her mind, 1 is very pretty and on a pedestal to put good thoughts in and the other 4 are there so she can put all bad thoughts in them.

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