Your unconscious is bigger, much bigger than your conscious mind. It’s the one in control. The voice in your head is your the conscious mind – it’s not in control.
When you consciously want to do something, like lose weight, or change a habit like smoking and the unconscious doesn’t agree with that idea, well guess what? Your unconscious will win every time.
And even before we’re born, we’re taking on ideas about the world and our place in it. Ideas to do with – we’re loved, wanted, (or not), the world is a welcoming, safe place, or not, etc. Then we’re born. And that can be a trauma in itself, which may teach us ‘I’m not safe!’ or whatever.
Until around we are around the age of 7 years old, we’re pretty much like a sponge. We take on other people’s ideas – ideas such as ‘You’re a nuisance. You’re unlovable. You’re stupid. You don’t matter. You’re trouble.’ Etc. These ideas go into our unconscious mind, and form the foundation for our life.
For example, if you take on the idea ‘I deserve to be treated badly, because I am not really worthwhile.’ Well, guess what? You’re set up to be the one who gets picked on, bullied, goes into abusive relationships etc. Change this underlying core program / belief to ‘I deserve to be treated with care and respect’, and your life changes.
That is interesting!
Also, if the unconscious doesn’t want you to do something, it wins. That’s what self-sabotage is about. Eg. if the unconscious has the program, ‘It’s not safe to be successful. It’s not safe to stand out,’ and you want to be successful, well guess what? It’s going to be very difficult to become successful.