We all start our lives as a perfect little personality and even before we are born we begin to collect our parents ideas and thoughts. This continues throughout our lives and many church groups say “give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man”.
That does not have to be true. We can cut ourselves free from other people’s ideas and training and choose to live our own lives. Often we do need help to do this.
What I do is help people to identify the “little person inside” who suffers from problems and stress, so that they get rid of rubbish they don’t want, to be the healthy happy person they are meant to be.
So many of us live with a huge burden of other people’s expectations. As kids our parents, teachers and coaches expect a variety of things and if we don’t achieve their expectations we may feel like failures and may develop a habit of being self-abusive. Some of us a lucky and our parents teach up to be proud of our achievements, others show a lack of support or other problems.
As adults we often collect other thoughts and expectations. We have pressures that build up causing stress and overwhelm. 75% of all illness is caused by stress.
The thing is that stress, anxiety and pressure build up like blowing up a balloon and unless you learn to let some of it out as you go along eventually you reach bursting point.
If you are living a life that others have planned for you that little original person is always under pressure and stressed.
It is time to look at the things that worry you, that are problems and work out when they started being problems and what else what happening around the same time or a little bit earlier.
Who does your little person inside really want to be? It makes a huge difference to your life when you discover this. If you need help, come and see me. It is surprisingly quick and easy without the usual rehashing things that you really want to forget.
Just call me for a chat or book straight in on the website.
