What a silly term… Guilty pleasures!
We all need pleasure. If you look at cell cultures, all cells, even plant cells move towards a drop of endorphin – every living organism is hard wired for pleasure.
So when you decide to indulge… just enjoy it! Leave out the guilt because that just spoils the pleasure and leaves you wanting more to compensate.
This weekend most of us will be eating chocolate and probably a lot more, so enjoy it, then go back to normal afterwards.
But if you’re a mum it could also be having some time alone… you’ve earned it so once you’ve organised the kids safely, just enjoy your time.
If you find yourself with some sort of guilt, it spoils the pleasure and because you then failed to get the sense of full satisfaction, it triggers the desire to do whatever you have done, again.
And this is where you can get caught in a cycle of self-sabotaging behaviour.
You are just having a disagreement between your conscious and your unconscious mind because of the conditionings set up in your childhood.
Our society doesn’t do pleasure well. And it’s why we end up with phrases like ‘Guilty Pleasures’.
Really, ‘guilty’ and ‘pleasure’ shouldn’t be in the same sentence.
If something is pleasurable, that’s it, it should be just pleasurable.
You should be allowed to freely enjoy the pleasure. And when that’s the case you can enjoy and appreciate an experience and then move on.
However once guilt is brought into the equation, then as I mentioned before, you don’t fully enjoy an experience which leaves you with a craving for more.
This Easter if you like chocolate or hot cross buns have some and give yourself permission to enjoy the experience freely. It’s what I do.
Just enjoy them, savour their flavour and feel good about the experience.
If this type of conflict between guilt and pleasure happens often causing excess drinking, weight problems or something else, come and see me to discover how hypnosis can help.