One moment everything is normal then suddenly life changes. Something happened and you are plunged into a whirl of fear, pain and bewilderment. This is trauma.
It may be a fall. A car accident, an out of the blue illness, a job loss, something happened to a friend or family member and suddenly life has changed. You may have a few days or even weeks off but you need to get back to your daily survival, back on your normal treadmill.
Ok you seem fine now, you are back at work, you are feeling much more tired than usual, but there are things to do. You must be over it by now!
But you are not over it. Inside your body keeps the score. Your cells are still holding that fear, pain and bewilderment. The trauma is still there as buried stress or unexplained anger deep inside. It doesn’t go away until you release it.
The fear and the overwhelm stop your Amygdala, that part of the brain that organises filing your memories, from working properly, so you don’t organise your memories which messes up your recall.
It is also normal to be angry and when that happens the frontal lobes of your brain are switched off so you are no longer thinking clearly and it is all about the anger.
All of this results in a lowered immune system. You may go down with a heavy cold, asthma, excema, migraines or with more severe stress you may develop an autoimmune disease or even cancer. Your body is trying to release the energy of that thing that happened by attacking your self because it can’t reach the cause.
Today I reviewed this article I wrote around 3 years ago after I had a bad fall taking out my wheelie bin. What happens is important to understand so I am sharing it again.
That fall resulted in a compound fracture; actually splintered both the radius and the ulna in my left arm and the ulna broke through the skin. I was in an ocean of pain, compounded by many hours waiting for treatment, transferring to another hospital, full of pain killers, anaesthetic, metal and screws.
Then I was home surviving. Friends and family dropped in with meals, a wonderful neighbour helped with my dishes each morning, I was back working within a few days.
Yes I was coping but I was not healing properly. I developed asthma and excema and felt desperately tired until I took some time out for myself and I did self-hypnosis to release my trauma in the same way that I help clients. That worked as it does for clients.
Yes you can still hold your normal self together and manage for a few hours each day but inside you are not right yet. You have simply buried all that pain and fear and must release it to prevent long-term problems.
When a wild animal has a trauma it releases this by trembling violently after the event. Then it gets up and runs back to its previous life. It is over. Humans have lost the ability to do this and even if it did happen, some well meaning helper will try to stop them trembling.
Leading world experts state that two things must happen:
- Your body has to somehow know that ‘it’s over’.
- Your unconscious mind must feel empowered so that events do not overwhelm you
This is how I help using a special hypnotic process called TRTP. It is very quick, gentle and effective and it only takes 3-4 sessions, then I follow you up after 3 months to make sure you don’t have any minor issues left over.
If this rings a bell for you of for someone you know, please get in touch with me to get help as soon as possible.