I moved two months ago and it has been a very interesting experience. Downsizing to a smaller more manageable house meant that two thirds of my belongings had to go and this was a slow process and surprisingly difficult.
It’s about identifying clutter and this can be complicated because clutter is not just physical stuff. Its also old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits.
Some clutter becomes fairly obvious and can be sorted but then there is the rest…
Some things hark back to my earliest childhood memories like a very ugly little red ceramic cat that was glued back together 60+ years ago. I do still have it because it won’t leave for some strange reason. I’ve even put it in the bin then rescued it a several times.
My method when I can’t decide is to hold something, shut my eyes, stop and feel it and decide if it gives me joy or peace or not. If it needs to stay, I put it down to the right and the things that can go are put on the left.
Then the “got to go” pile were sorted into 4 piles, DUMP, GARAGE SALE, GUMTREE and OP SHOP. After the sales, things went to the op-shops or the dump. This needed to be a 2-stage process, first to present the house for sale, and then a much more rushed effort to either pack or get rid of.
I am pretty happy that I kept what I wanted. After I got to the new house I still had a bit to much stuff and did 2 op-shop runs plus another dump run and two people who are moving soon took my boxes, bags and bubble wrap. Things fit, I have what I need. I still want to change some of my furniture and will in time as it suits the budget.
This was about stuff but the process is much the same for emotional stuff. Clutter is anything that does not support who you really are and what feels most comfortable in your life. We all need to discard some of our emotional stuff and deal with memories that are cluttering our lives.
When something comes up, stop and feel it for a while, then decide if it gives you joy. Anything else can go! The past is gone and you can’t change it so don’t hang onto it unless it makes you happy. The future isn’t here yet so stop imagining things that don’t make you happy.
Anxiety can be guilt about things that can’t be changed in the past and mostly it is a fear of what will happen in the future. The thing about anxiety is that those who have suffered trauma fear the future because of the past. They have already been through a “worst case scenario” and know what it feels like and they live with their Fight/Flight/Freeze alarm always on and triggered to go off. It is never over.
This hurt, anger and pain are held throughout your body, not just in your conscious mind and logic won’t shift it. The hypnotherapy I do can heal for you this in around 3 to 4 sessions and it is life changing for so many people. It is fast and gentle and I do not take you cognitively back over your traumas. I only need a dot point outline so that you can sort things out unconsciously.
If you need help to de-clutter your mind and your memories please call me for help.